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Ten Moons

Fifth moon · week 20 of 40

Good morning.

Your body is doing a lot of work you never see.

Fifth moon of ten

Week 20 of 40

The eight cards · week 20

What's happening this week

Baby

What's growing

Halfway. ~25 cm crown-to-heel

The mid-pregnancy anatomy scan typically happens this week.

Source: ISUOG Practice Guidelines, Ultrasound Obstet Gynecol 2022 — Mid-trimester scan

Body

What's changing in you

Center of gravity is shifting

Postural compensation begins. Lower-back tightness is mechanical, not weakness.

Source: Soma-Pillay et al., Cardiovascular Journal of Africa 27(2), 2016 — Physiological changes in pregnancy

General info — not personalized medical advice.

Brain

Maternal brain

From 'pregnant' to 'becoming'

Identity reorganizes around the imagined baby — what Athan calls matrescence, drawing on Stern.

Source: Athan, Matrescence framework, Columbia University (2011–present)

Bond

You & baby

A name, a nickname, a hello

Many parents start using a placeholder name now — a small but meaningful attachment behavior.

Source: Cranley, Nursing Research 30(5), 1981 — Maternal-Fetal Attachment Scale

Partner

For your partner

Co-watch the scan video later

Re-watching scan footage together, slowly, deepens shared narrative — a Cowan-style ritual.

Source: Cowan & Cowan, When Partners Become Parents (1992; 2nd ed. 2000)

Reflection

60-second prompt

Who taught you how to parent?

What will you keep? What will you change?

Source: Fraiberg, Adelson & Shapiro, JAACAP 14(3), 1975 — Ghosts in the Nursery

Prepare · next meaningful step

Choose a birth class

Look for evidence-based curricula that include partners and postpartum.

Today's reflection

Where in your body do you feel today's news?

Learn · chosen for you

Worth ten minutes

My moon today

Your nervous system is rehearsing for the work ahead.

Try this — Try four slow exhales — longer than your inhales.

What are you hoping your baby inherits from you?